Why do so many of us fail to achieve our New Year’s Goals?
Not from lack of know how. You are all familiar with the goal setting advice such as make your goals SMART (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Timely), keep your goals written and visible, and find an accountability partner. Still by February, you haven’t read War & Peace, fit into your skinny jeans, or learned Spanish.
I think the culprit is lack of proper motivation. (Why do you want to read War & Peace anyway?!)
As an example, let’s look at a mom’s goal to lose 20 pounds for her son’s wedding.
This seems like a good reason to lose 20 pounds, but what is it about her son’s wedding that compels her to want to lose weight?
- My sister is coming, and she is so thin that I always feel like a moose next to her
- I can’t believe my baby is getting married. Where did the years go?
- My former husband and his much younger wife will be at the ceremony
Not to get too psychology 101 here, but these are not inspiring reasons to lose 20 pounds.
Being thinner is not going to improve our mom’s relationship with her sister, turn back the clock, or heal the pain of divorce. So perhaps this woman should focus on what losing 20 pounds means to her.
- I’ll have more energy for the big weekend
- I can play 18 holes of golf with my new in laws
- I can wear a pretty- very un-mother of the groom- dress
- I will fully enjoy the wedding photos
This seems rather basic, but sometimes we forget that without an inspiring and personal reason to succeed, we won’t.
Consider one of your resolutions. What is your motivation? Really?